The first time I went through IVF and FET I told everyone in my immediate family, select co-workers, and some friends.
Unfortunately, the select co-workers told other co-workers, and soon everyone at work knew. I was driving to the RE’s office 3 hours round trip several times a week (or more) so it was important that some of my coworkers and my boss knew but not EVERYONE. It was uncomfortable at work going through the whole IVF process when everyone knew but even worse after the miscarriage. It might sound weird but I didn’t take any time off work that wasn’t absolutely necessary. I took the day off for the d&c but went back to work the next day. Work for me is a great way to take my mind off things especially when it’s really busy. But, everyones’ well-meaning comments really didn’t help keep my mind off things. In fact, it brought me to tears a few times and that’s the last thing I want to do at work.
This time we are not telling a single person. Not one. In fact, if things don’t work out no one will even know we tried. If things do work out I have a feeling we won’t be eager to share the good news until we actually believe that it is going to be good news.
My family and friends were supportive and very sweet but for some reason it just feels right to not share with anyone this time. Maybe that is part of the reason why I started a blog. It’s nice to have a place to vent where no one knows who I am.
Tonight we’re going to the city to celebrate my birthday tomorrow. Guillermo has reservations at an awesome restaurant (I don’t know where, he’s going to surprise me). Then tomorrow we are going to two different museum exhibits that I have been dying to see. Can’t wait!